The Price of a Like


We live in an age of connectedness but none of us is really “connected”.

Social media has brought us closer together, letting us communicate with those we normally would not be able to speak with. Through bringing together the globe, we are able to find our niche and communicate with those who share our similar interests.

However, why do we find ourselves seeking for validation off others? Why do we base our worth of “likes”? Is that what we have settled for, a virtual currency that we define our sense of worth off of?

We fail to find comfort in genuine human connection now, seeking instead to find a virtual connection. Real life communication has changed to “DM’s” and “tweets”. I am not saying these are bad, but rather understand that a balance must be made and if you find yourself clinging to each like, hoping to reach a certain number, it may be time to reflect.

If we examine the scene here on WordPress, it can become clear that individuals like and comment on posts in order to drive traffic over to their own blog, rather than connecting because they genuinely liked your post or have input they’d like to share. This, however, is common in the blogging scene and elsewhere in the media world, with bloggers leaving their links in others social media posts without any other input or with only the desire to receive traffic by hijacking someone elses posts.

By doing so, you are not connecting with others in a positive light, and without acknowledging it, you can be a part of the problem of the lack of connection between other individuals.

Listed below is a segment of an important article found on Huffington Post.

“The paradox effect in dating is creating the illusion of having more social engagement, social capital, and popularity, but masking one’s true persona. Since some are interfacing digitally more than physically it is much easier to emotionally manipulate others because they are reliant on what I call “Vanity Validation”. The one you portray on your networks and the true you, for some, creates a double consciousness.”

This is an important point to focus on; the aspect of a double consciousness. By creating these two personas, we are not able to be true to either one, rather we become a conjunction of either.

In the article, it also touches on the topic of a “highlight reel”.

“Since we’re only getting people’s highlight reels and comparing it to ourselves, it is natural to have reactions to what we’re watching.”

I believe that many people become obsessed with uploading the positives of their lives on social media, which normally gathers the most traffic. Individuals who see these posts will be more likely to compare their whole lives to these “segments” of other peoples lives rather than understanding that, just as the article states, it’s just a “highlight reel”.

On Time, an article that explores the correlation between posts and its effects, states, “A lot of us just kind of scroll through and see things passively,” Burke says. “We might not realize that we are internalizing it and that it can be affecting our attitudes about ourselves.”

It further this by stating “We should be careful about the way that we’re phrasing things,” she says. “We should be responsible posters and try to have a proactive, pro-health, positive message that makes people feel capable of engaging in these health behaviours.”

I believe this is an important post to focus on, to be a responsible poster who acknowledges that their uploads can and will affect their viewing base. By becoming proactive and pro-health, they will be able to influence their audience in a positive light.

By coming back to the premise of this post and by absorbing the messages laid out by both articles, hopefully, you as a reader can understand what your posting can do to others and why communicating with others in a positive way can benefit both parties.

As a final question, ask yourself, “what is a like to me and why do I need it?”




5 thoughts on “The Price of a Like

  1. Reblogged this on newauthoronline and commented:
    I agree with much of this post and, in particular with the following statement:
    “We fail to find comfort in genuine human connection now, seeking instead to find a virtual connection. Real life communication has changed to “DM’s” and
    “tweets”. I am not saying these are bad, but rather understand that a balance must be made and if you find yourself clinging to each like, hoping to reach
    a certain number, it may be time to reflect”.

    A week or so ago, I received a comment consisting of a link to a new WordPress user’s blog. Simply that, (no other comment), nor did the blogger “like” my post. Needless to say I did not approve their comment. I did, however email them explaining that I realised that they where new to WordPress, wished them well but pointed out that their behaviour was “rude” and highly likely to result in others spamming their comments and not exploring their blog. I heard nothing back.

    While I understand Kyle’s point about promoting positive messages on one’s blog, this is not applicable to all websites. To take an obvious example, writers will produce content that raises uncomfortable issues, some of which will offend some of their readers. Writers need to be true to themselves and produce their best work which will not appeal to everyone and which may (on occasion) cause offence.


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  2. As for me, I am NOT very particular with “likes.” Rather, I’m more excited in “meaningful comments” — those comments that really connect with the article. As I explore WordPress blogs, I often see links in the commetns area being promoted by the commenter. Honestly, for me, that’s a very unethical practice.

    I have another disturbing observation: I see some blogs where the bloggers dont provide useful information for others; instead, they just tell their embellished stories, or their rantings, and/or they attach their semi-nude photos — maybe hoping to get more “likes.” And what’s worse is that they ignore the comments. They just continue writing more posts. Maybe they feel like they are famous celebrities with fans.

    Well, I think blogging is a two-way communication tool. That’s how it is different from static websites. This is where writers communicate with the readers and other writers. And they support one another (through comments). But if we treat others as if they are fans, and we are celebrities, and we don’t even reply to their worthy comments, we are missing the point of blogging. We should have just created a static website with “likes.”

    So again, as an answer to your question… “likes” are nice to see after I wrote a post; But I am more excited in those “insightful comments” where the commenters proved that he/she took time not just to read my post but reflect on it.

    Thanks for sharing your insights on this matter!

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